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Kylie’s a billionaire at 20 so what are we all doing? A lot, turns out

by SweetMidlife

I come not to bury Kylie Jenner – I don’t know her and apparently she’s nearly a billionaire with her cosmetics empire so even if I tried she could climb out of the dirt on a giant pile of money. I do, however, come to say that almost no one else is a billionaire at 20, or at any age, and that it’s absolutely OK. More than OK, really.

There’s been a lot of hubbub about Forbes’ cover featuring Kylie in a serious business suit touting her as a female self-made billionaire, if you define “self-made” by starting your business with your own money, as she did with assets she made from modeling. Of course many, including me, beg to differ that one can be self-made with a modeling career made possible by both sides of her rich and famous family and her high media profile since childhood, and maintain that the admirable hustle she possesses was still built on a platform she inherited.

Then again, even Kylie’s sister haven’t made the money she has, so she’s doing something right. I am neither jealous nor hating. But I was among those who reacted with strongly to the snarky New York Post tweet that read “19-year-old Kylie Jenner is worth $900 million dollars…What are you doing with your life?” Um, what? I know it’s meant to probably award Kylie for her hard work, specifically at her age, but there’s an unfortunate implication that anyone who hasn’t done that – AND NO ONE HAS – has somehow wasted their lives and is a loser and should feel bad. You don’t have to put down other people to pull her up, New York Post.

A very wise attorney named Michelle Bhasin who I have never met but who I’d like to be my best friend, was one of several people who instead of saying “Umm, not being born into a rich famous family” decided to answer that snarky question sincerely. Bhasin talked about being a professional and raising her kids, one of whom is autistic, and about her community work with the homeless. Michelle Bhasin is not a billionaire, but she’s doing a lot.

Her Tweet was one of several that told big stories in a small amount of characters, of careers made from high school educations, from pulling oneself up from desperate family situations, from barely making ends meet but being able to look themselves in the eye at the end of the day. These were beautiful histories of strong people, mostly women, proud of their lives and their accomplishments, even if they were broke, because what they were doing with their lives was living well. I even added my own, above.

In this age of hate and division and, I believe, value put on the most horrible wrong things, this feed will make you feel good about some hardworking Americans who deserve to be billionaires. They won’t be. But that doesn’t make them any less impressive than Kylie Jenner. Not at all.

Dear Racist Tweeters: We can read this. Morons.

by SweetMidlife
If you don’t want your business out there, don’t hit “Tweet.”

Leslie here. Because I’m a professional writer/Tweeter/Facebooker/blogger/airer of my personal feelings, I am super vigilant about the things that I say or write, because I know that my status in my job depends on public perception, or at least the perception of the tiny bit of the public that cares. I might say something controversial or unpopular, but if I do, I am darned sure that I mean it and back it up, because there are no take-backs on the Internet.

There was a time that I would have cut a non-professional some slack for private thoughts or opinions that get out in the public, because they might not be used to seeing themselves judged publicly, and even if those thoughts are reprehensible, it’s their business. That time was before social media, because once something goes on Twitter, it’s no longer private. It’s as public as the Tweets put out by Rachel Maddow, Jon Stewart, Jessica Simpson or Donald Trump, even if he Tweets as if only addressing a group of ignorant pod people within a metal tube who don’t understand what he’s saying.

And if you don’t know this you should not be on Twitter. Period. Today’s teenagers have had every moment of their lives, interesting or otherwise, broadcast to the world since they were tiny. You can’t hide behind privacy because you chose not to have any. Yes, there is freedom of speech. And other people have the freedom to tell you your speech is stupid.

So, if you’re, say, the many, many racist teenagers…or, if not actual racists, people who Tweet racist things who are…let’s be honest, racists…who took to the Twitterverse to express their displeasure over Barack Obama’s reelection, then I think they should have to deal when people in the public don’t like it. I read a story on Jezebel.com about many of those kids, including a charming young lady whose handle is MoriahRae1 and who Tweeted “F…ing N….r Won Again.” Apparently one of the commenters wrote that he had helpfully looked up a lot of the kids, who have very public profiles and online footprints, and sent their information to their schools, many of which are Christian academies (P.S. Jesus doesn’t approve, racist Christian academy idiots.)

Interestingly enough, the first several responders thought this was a mean thing to do, because, you know, they’re just kids, right? They don’t know what they’re doing? Why should someone go out of their way to ruin the futures of some misguided kids who might not even mean what they wrote?

I could not disagree more.

While I have more important things to do than seek out kids and look up their schools and write letters and stuff, there is never any guarantee, once you hit “Tweet” that somebody won’t be mad enough to do that. Or to Tweet back something equally or more nasty. You have no idea what is going to happen. You put it out there in the universe and have to deal with the fallout. If you don’t like it, that’s on you. No one should threaten your life because of your beliefs. But if they call you stupid, well…If you can’t take it, don’t dish it out.

Also, these kids are learning that not only does Twitter not happen in a vacuum, but neither does your life, meaning that if future colleges, employers, friends or important contacts happen to find out about your shenanigans on Twitter, then you should have figured that out. Sorry. Don’t feel sorry for them. I’m sorry they may have ruined their lives, and there is no law against being racist. But private employers don’t have to care. This reminds me of the girls from Santaluces High School in Boynton Beach, Fl., down the street from me, who made a racist video that probably was just acting out and not malicious, but posted it online like idiots. And when the fallout came, they were, at least temporarily, socially destroyed.

Miss MoriahRae1 seems to have deleted her feed, and another misguided young girl actually Tweeted for people to leave her alone, because it’s only funny to be ignorant, not to have other people be ignorant back to you. I hope that these girls learn their lesson and, if they don’t renounce their ignorance, at least either play that ignorance close to the vest, or learn to get a thicker skin.

Because a moment of hitting “Tweet” could mean a lifetime of backlash. Just saying.

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