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Mostly Sunny

by SweetMidlife

Hi! Lynne here!


My husband, son and I just got home from a few days with my sister’s family in West Palm Beach, Florida. We went down for Sunfest, an annual music festival right on the water. I used to go almost every year, but hadn’t been since my son was born a few years ago. I was so excited to introduce my people to an event that I had many wonderful memories of. Memories of good music, and good food, and well, sun.


We were supposed to go on Saturday and Sunday, the last 2 days of the festival, and had been hearing that the weather might not be cooperating. I downloaded The Weather Channel app on my phone, and it became my new best friend. And on Saturday, by the time we got ready to make our way down to the grounds, it started raining. And it lightened up, but by that time we had to get our kid read for bed, so we just went to Cracker Barrel. Now, things looked better for Sunday, according to my friend TWC app (we were best friends now, so I could use its nickname). TWC said that it would be clear, and partly cloudy. It even had a picture of a little sin with clouds peeking out from behind. Partly cloudy is better than mostly rainy, so I thought, you know, that’s doable. But the Look Out of the Window app (which is where you open the curtains and look out of the window) told a different story. Because it was a glorious, gorgeous sunny day. The clouds weren’t nasty ones, but the cottony ones that just add to the beautiful blue. I don’t think that I would have even noticed them if the TWC app had’t told me that they were there. I rechecked my phone. Now TWC app was saying that the day was “Fair”. Like “not spectacular”. Benign. But it was anything but. It was beautiful.

And I thought about how often we let those things in the background literally cloud our view on what is really an amazing thing. When people ask us how we are doing, we start with the not-so-wonderful instead of leading with the sunshine and THEN mentioning the clouds, if that is even necessary. We sometimes even let other people dictate the state of our situation for us. But guess what? Some clouds only become visible when you think about them. Otherwise, you can just ignore them, or swirl them into the background to make the prettiest shade of blue imaginable. Go with the good stuff. Lead with the sun. Much more enjoyable.

Glass half full, dead car all paid for, and sun still shining

by SweetMidlife

Leslie here!

So yesterday I Western Unioned (is that a word?) my final $230 payment on my 2007 Scion from a local Publix grocery store.

“Congratulations!” the sweet customer service lady said, beaming. “I’m so jealous! I have three more years for mine.”

I didn’t have the heart to tell her that 48 hours earlier, that car’s engine was flooded in crazy roiling waters in a street that had become a river in the middle of a two-hour rainstorm, and that it was most likely dead.

Meaning that there are probably more car payments in my future.

So why was I smiling?

If you’ve read this blog, you might know that my sister and I and our family have been through some stuff in the last little while. Our dad died. Our granddaddy died. My mother-in-law and Bubie-in-law died. There have been family illnesses and all manner of drama. We’re trying to move soon. The summer travel season and its corresponding stresses loom large. I’m still not skinny. Wine still tastes good.

And yet….

There is something about crisis that gives you a laser-sharp discernment about what’s a real crisis and what isn’t. I probably lost my car. But I was safe, which wasn’t a guarantee. I was rescued by a nice cop who sat behind me with his lights on so I wouldn’t get hit, a tow truck driver who showed up earlier than I thought and my husband who took me to get French fries. My insurance is paying for a rental for a whole month. The process to determine whether or not my car’s repairable is going fast and efficiently.

And that’s awesome. It’s not awesome that it happened. But I choose to focus on the positive, like not being hit in the road, or that if I have to get a new car, I might be handed money to help pay for a new one, since we were considering replacing it later this year anyway.

I am a fan of new beginnings, particularly in the light of some of the crappiness of recent times. I also ultimately believe in the glass being half full. Why not? That means you already drank half a glass of it, and there’s half more deliciousness to go.

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